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Quickly reaching a point in which I can’t follow ANYONE who talks shit about Aang. All of the “hot takes” are always the dumbest fucking thing in the world. I just had to see with my own two eyes that “Aang foced Zuko to care for his abuser by refusing to kill Ozai”

Zuko is the Fire Lord. He has full legal authority over what happens on the Fire Nation. Aang is basically a religious figure - important, sure, but he doesn’t call the shots in their world. 

If Zuko wanted to, he could banish Ozai, or execute him. And in the show, when he does visit the fucker, it is very clear it is with the goal to get INFORMATION. Not to “take care” of him. He can just order someone to do that for him, IF he wants Ozai to be cared for, but, understandably, doesn’t want to ever see him or even think about him again.

Zuko’s abuser is still breathing once Aang isn’t around BECAUSE ZUKO UNDERSTOOD AANG’S REASONING, AND AGREED WITH HIM. They want to build a new world, where kindness and mercy are the rule. By sparing even Ozai, while still making sure he can never hurt anyone ever again, they are BOTH being true to what they believe (and preventing people from turning Ozai into a martyr)

Aang was the protagonist for a reason - he’s right. He is what the world needed to finally move on from a hundred years of war, violence, and death. And no amount of being bitter that Avatar isn’t Game Of Thrones, or that Zuko wasn’t the protagonist, or that Zutara didn’t happen, or whatever the fuck it was that made you people so fucking incapable of understanding things the show fucking spelled out is going to change that. 

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I mean honestly? In Azula’s case it’s a result of like, you know. Abuse? And in Aang’s case it’s… hi, that’s what being the Avatar is. Is it fair? Probably not, blame Wan. 

He actually did. There are a lot of times he was scolded for just being a child because the rest of the characters expected him to be mighty and adult-y. And I don’t think other Avatars had it worst cause they were already adults (or at least close to adulthood) by the time they had to step up and be responsible. They had the chance to be children before the time to be the Avatar came. Aang didn’t. By the time he had to be the Avatar he was still a child. Other Avatars had tolerable childhoods (mostly) while Aang was expected to sacrifice his which is what I’m trying to point out by this meme.

Korra was nearly kidnapped as a toddler and then spent most of her formative years in an isolated compound completely by herself with the only thing she had being ‘she was the Avatar’. It was all she had, and while it didn’t bother her at first it clearly really damaged her later in life when she got older and realised the sum total of her identity was tied to her being the Avatar.

Kyoshi was homeless until she was about Aang’s age, then spent most of her teenage years as essentially an indentured servant until she was around the same age as Korra in season 1, at which point she was identified as the Avatar and most of the people she cared about were killed before she had to go on the run with a bunch of criminals and almost die horribly multiple times. Kyoshi never had the chance to be a child in a much bigger way than Aang did, because by the time Aang was 12 and ran away he’d still had enough time to visit other places in the world and make friends there. Kyoshi didn’t get that, and grew up to be like. One of the best Avatars ever.

Idk too much about Kuruk and Yangchen’s early lives (I need to read the Yangchen novel) but I do know that she had debilitatingly painful visions for most of her childhood as a result of her being the Avatar and didn’t get to grow up normally because of them. Kuruk seems like his life only went bad when he got older, but the only named Avatars who had easier lives than Aang was Roku and maybe Szeto.

The thing about being born the Avatar is that it’s pretty inherently unfair to whoever gets handed that responsibility - but at the same time, when you have it you have it and there’s nothing anyone can do about it. If he hadn’t run away when he did the timeline on him finding out he was the Avatar and the first instance of Sozin’s comet is the same as the show - so he could have done all the stuff he did in the show a hundred years earlier and prevented the worst things about the war from happening. And we kinda see in Korra that Aang never really stopped considering himself an Airbender first and an Avatar second - in a way that not only had negative consequences for the world, but also for his immediate family members. Aang’s actions have massively wide-scale consequences whether he likes it or not, comparing him being asked to grow up too fast to literally any other character undermines the fact that in the case of ATLA, every character who had to grow up too fast had to do it partially because of Aang shirking his responsibilities.

Why are you so unempathetic towards Aang? Ofc he considered himself Airbender first, Avatar second. Airbender is something he enjoyed being and he was the last one in the world, if he didn’t put importance in being an airbender and focusing on repopulating the air temples then the air benders would die out. He treasured being an airbender over everything just like scientists treasure white rhinos over the other kinds bc there are only two of them left. After Aang’s death, the Avatar line would continue even if he didn’t do any preparations for the next Avatar. The same wouldn’t happen with the airbenders. They would disappear if Aang didn’t do anything about it and that would also damage the Avatar line too bc what would they do when it was time for an airbending Avatar to be born but there was no air nation for them to be born in or be taught by? Aang focusing more of being an airbender than being the Avatar was the right thing to do bc if he didn’t there would be no 4 nations ever again so no balance and also it would fuck the Avatar line a couple of decades into the future. And running away was the right thing to do as well. The genocide happened barely months after he left, if he had stayed he wouldn’t complete his training and would die and then all the airbenders would be gone forever which as we already established would be terrible for everyone. By leaving he bought himself time, saved the air nation from disappearing and saved the Avatar line from getting fucked over. Other characters would have to grow up fast no matter what Aang did. The only one who he could save from this fate was himself and he did. So don’t for one second act as if it was bad that he left.

Here is the thing - Aang focusing more on rebuilding the Air Nation is fine? Aang even putting specific emphasis on being an Air Nomad is fine. The problem is WHEN. The problem is that during the war, he NEEDED to be the Avatar, first and foremost. As soon as that was done? He could really afford to spend the rest of his life mostly focusing on Air Nomad stuff, truly, it was important for him to do that for so many reasons - but not while millions of people are actively in danger and he’s the only person who can help them. Like really the only problem with Aang considering him an airbender first and foremost later in life is how doing that fucked up his kids, in as much as he put too much pressure on Tenzin and basically ignored Kya and Bumi.

The reason I think he’s selfish is because he wasn’t willing to TEMPORARILY prioritise the world over his beliefs and desires as an Air Nomad. He made a massive gamble by not killing Ozai, and the stakes were his principles or the entire world. Not only that but leaving wasn’t something he did for good reasons - he didn’t know what was about to happen and run because of that, he ran because he didn’t want to be the Avatar. If he had stayed and accepted the responsibility, the Air Nomads would have moved him out of the temple to find a Waterbending Master because he’d already mastered Airbending - arguably, if some of them had gone with him, more Air Nomads would have survived - and he hadn’t left the temple, Aang would have seen what was happening, become enraged, and gone into the Avatar State - enabling him to mitigate the damage being done at least somewhat. I hate to say it but as much as there’s a chance he could have died too, there’s an even chance that his presence WOULD have made a difference.

And if Aang did survive, he could have ended the War then and there. The reality of being the Avatar is being burdened with unfair expectations and responsibility and the thing about Aang is - Aang is kind of the perfect airbender, but a horrible Avatar.

Omg you are right who the fuck did Aang dare to have as a priority not to let his ppl and culture that he so much loves die out? How dare he not be there to try and fail to prevent a genocide that shouldn’t even be happening? How dare he be in need of going for a walk to clean his mind after he was told that his life will be stripped away from him and that he’ll be taken away from his parent figure without his consent for a reason he’s too young to understand? How dare he cope with his emotions the same way everyone would and most of all how dare he act like a 12 year old. It’s almost like he. is. one. Honestly, fuck him, he sucks 😐

You’re so right. I’m glad millions of people died because he needed to clear his head. What’s a hundred years of war, countless deaths, a cycle of destruction and death spanning the entire globe, the partial genocide of the Water Tribe and the horrific suffering of an incalculable number of people when compared to feelings of one kid? It’s so unfair that anyone would expect anything from the Avatar at a time of great crisis, and no other Avatar has ever had to overcome things like losing a parental figure in a brutal act of violence before prioritising the safety of the world anyway? You know what I’m glad Katara’s mom got murdered by the Fire Nation, clearly everyone deserved it by expecting the Avatar to come and save them instead of doing it for themselves.

Millions of people didn’t die because Aang wanted to clear his head. They died because Sozin was a fucking asshole and Roku was a fool to trust him. Aang lost everything that day. His family, his friends, his home, his country, everything! He’s a victim on this situation so you better get this victim blaming bullshit out of my face you fucking moron.

If anyone was to expect better from the Avatar then the Avatar they should blame is Roku, not Aang. Roku was the one to grown up with Sozin. Roku was the one who knew about Sozin’s plan and let him off with a warning. Roku was the one to trust Sozin after everything that had happened. Roku was the fool who decided to fight a fucking volcano when all the ppl were already off the island and safely sailing away.

The one who is at fault for everything is Sozin and Roku not the fucking 12 year old child who lost everything because of someone else’s mistakes and is just as much of a victim as everyone else.

The world isn’t like that because Aang made a mistake. The blame is to be put on Sozin and Roku.

It’s not Aang’s fault that the FN decided to wage war.

It’s not Aang’s fault that Roku, who has known about Sozin’s plan, did nothing to stop him.

It’s not Aang’s fault that he is but a child.

Aang was a master Airbender. He also was the Avatar. But before all that, he was a kid. And that is what he should’ve been treated as.

What is wrong with you that you can’t see that?

And let’s say Aang WAS there when the Fire Nation attacked - THE FUCK WAS HE GONNA DO?

He had no control over the Avatar State or any bending other than air at that point, meanwhile Sozin and all of his army got a power boost because of the comet.

At best, he takes down some fuckers if the Avatar State takes over - but even THAT doesn’t last forever, and we see that, in the early episodes, it only last a few minutes.

Aang, at that point in his training, would NOT have saved the day. Expecting otherwise would be like expecting Katara to use bloodbending to keep the southern raiders away from her mother - it was just not a possibility.

I have MANY criticism of how Avatar handled the fact that the main characters are traumatized child soldiers, but one thkng the writers did not forget was that Aang, before being the Avatar, before being the world’s last hope, was a human being - a child - and that people’s expectation that he should just magically be solely the Avatar, solely this mystical savior, wasn’t just unfair and cruel, it was STUPID and counterprotective because Aang’s strength came from his EMOTIONAL CONNECTIONS.

Connections to the people he lost, to his new friends, to his culture, to the other nations, to his past lives, to the world, to animals, to the spirits - so the fact that he was about to lose Gyatso, to be sent away, to be forced to be nothing but the Avatar naturally makes him snap, and ironically enough, THIS allowed him time to mature into someone who COULD stand up against the Fire Nation and win.

The whole point of Aang’s arc is to put a stop to “necessary” evils and “inevitable” sacrifices - that’s why he goes as far as sparing Ozai of all people, and not only forgiving Zuko but actually befriending him. He didn’t just end a war, he took major steps that gave the world a chance to heal, and to make the four nations coexist again.

Aang saved the world because he stayed true to himself. Kind, strong, wise, and powerful as hell, sure. But still naive, cheery, goofy, and A CHILD THAT IS RIGHTFULLY PISSED AT BEING EXPECTED TO SOLVE A MESS HE DID NOT CREATE AND THAT EVEN THE ACTUAL GROWN UPS AROUND HIM CAN’T FUCKING FIX.

It’s almost like a system as cruel as “This child is now just our super weapon, it’s for the good of the world” could never fix a war that started because of a man that treated everyone, including his best friend, as colateral damage in his own selfish quest for power - oh, I’m sorry, I meant “for the good of the Fire Nation.”

18 fucking years and people still can’t see that AANG WAS THE PROTAGONIST FOR A REASON; SAID REASON BEING “WAR IS FUCKING TERRIBLE AND CHILDREN DESERVE BETTER THAN TO GROW UP IN A WORLD WHERE THEIR WELL-BEING AND HAPPINESS DOESN’T MATTER TO THE ADULTS THAT WERE MEANT TO PROTECT THEM!”

Friendly reminder that no, what Aang went through isn’t ‘just being the avatar’. By the rules set up in the show, the Avatar isn’t even supposed to know he’s the Avatar until he’s 16, let alone anyone other than his direct caretakers, Aang learned it due to a freak situation.

As for Korra, not only is she also a special case (knowing she’s the avatar when she’s like 6, before anyone else knew) but LOK is also a nonsensical show who does dumb shit with the lore and thus is worthless to compare to Aang’s situation.

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“Mean girls all grow up to be nurses!”

“Mean girls all go into social work!”

“The mean girl to teacher pipeline!”

Y’all, these are just pink collar jobs. The reason you think there’s so many “mean girls” in these fields is because they’re all like 97% women. Of course some of them are gonna be assholes. There’s assholes everywhere.

We get it. Your job isn’t like other girls’ jobs. It’s a cool job.

it’s true that there are some incredibly cruel people in all of these professions.

it’s also true that they all suffer from chronic underpayment, overwork, lack of institutional support, and insane bureaucratic demands that would make them fail the people in their care all the time even if every single one was a saint.

That’s absolutely missing the point.

While those are all “helper” professions and they very much are pink collar (and are underpaid, that’s not an incompatible idea), they’re also ones that involve power over vulnerable people’s lives. (And I’ve only encountered it as a comparison to, say, male bullies becoming cops, it’s not like men aren’t being mentioned here.)

Secretaries/administrative assistants aren’t on that list for a reason. Flight attendants aren’t on that list. Housecleaners aren’t on that list. Receptionists. Customer service representatives. Dental hygienists. The people who style hair or do nails. That’s not a list of pink collar jobs. It’s specifically (pink collar) positions where if you want to abuse people you’re relatively likely to get away with it.

It can both be true that “nurses who care for disabled people need better pay” and “nurses who care for disabled people have a lot of opportunities to abuse their power and that’s something worth talking about.”

Women aren’t immune from treating people badly because they’re women, or because women are underpaid. They’re sure not immune from specifically seeking out jobs that will allow them to be cruel without any consequences to them, if they get personal satisfaction out of being cruel.

You are trying to shut down a conversation about abuse.

Shitty people are attracted to positions of power. That includes working class women!

There have been a lot of studies about hazing and abuse in nursing communities and even murder!

My mother is a nurse, her co-workers sit around laughing about the people who fall out of their wheel chairs, about the nurses who do cry when someone dies, my mother has ignored patients crying out in pain in order to drink her coffee.

My mother has intentionally let elderly patients at her nursing home die. She has abused them and she has laughed about it. She has left people suffering and has caused that suffering.

Nurses are underpaid and they are disrespected as medical professionals who aren’t a doctor. That’s true and we should talk about that, but we can not ignore the fact that violent women seek out these jobs with God Complexes and the intent to do harm.

Sure, that harm might be because they are bitter, over-worked, and disrespected. None the less, it is no different than when a male doctor causes purposeful harm to his patient.

Nurses contribute to eugenics, to patient abuse, elder abuse, and yeah even child abuse (my mother was proficient in all of them!)

Here are some important articles to read:

Nurses Eat Their Young An article about hazing and bullying among nurses. The title comes from a common saying in medical circles, the first time I heard it, it was in reference to my mother’s best friend who had poured coffee over the hands of a new nurse who had reported another nurse to a superior for abusing a patient.

Bullying in Nursing – Why The Hazing is Getting Worse A brief article on forms of hazing.

Nurse hazing: a costly reality

Why do nurses abuse patients? Reflections from South African obstetric services

Patients’ lives being left at mercy of abusive nurses

Every single one of these articles, with exception of the last – which is guardian article – is a professionally published medical article.

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